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wolfish_willow) wrote2010-05-08 03:12 pm
wolfish_willow) wrote2010-05-08 03:12 pm
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Do I...
...give off gay vibes or something..? Because somehow joking banter with my father morphed into his saying how I apparently like girls... again...
We were watching Glee (I was watching it again because I really like the 'Run, Joey, Run' video, lol) and afterwards my Dad insisted on making inappropriate comments about the guys in the show. My mom and I ignored him for the most part, because he just likes to be annoying and politically incorrect and whatnot, so we're used to blocking him out. Mom said that we have the Rolling Stones article around and I asked where it is because I've wanted to read it since I found out there was one. She told me it should still be in the car unless Dad through it away. So of course he takes this turn to join the conversation, jokingly (thankfully). But he joked that he through it away b/c he didn't want to see the guys anymore. I go, "Dude, not fair. What if I want to look at the guys, huh?" That's where it went from joking to just mean.
Because then he starts in on how, it's okay because I don't even like guys. So looking at the hot guys on the show would have just been like looking at any guy, because "you wouldn't want to do anything with those guys, anyways, right?" I don't understand how we got back to this argument. I don't know how many times I have to tell him I'm not gay. *sigh* So he goes, and these were his exact words, mind you, "you just want Goofy from Supernatural. Since you can't have him, you wouldn't want anybody, right?" I'm all, "Goofy?... You mean Jared..?" He ignored me, saying how "it's okay, really. I know that you're going to be 80 and never have been with a guy. That's what you want, so it'll be okay since you're happy."
What the hell? My mom kept telling him to shut up the whole time he was talking. Told him how a guy with a self-esteem like his should realize that saying those kinds of things is hurtful. Especially since he knows my self-esteem is even worse than his. But really, I though parents weren't supposed to want their kids to go off and have random sex..? It seems like that's something I'd have to do to convince him. *sigh* I need some sort of male make-out buddy to get caught with. Maybe then my dad will stop thinking I'm a lesbian...
We were watching Glee (I was watching it again because I really like the 'Run, Joey, Run' video, lol) and afterwards my Dad insisted on making inappropriate comments about the guys in the show. My mom and I ignored him for the most part, because he just likes to be annoying and politically incorrect and whatnot, so we're used to blocking him out. Mom said that we have the Rolling Stones article around and I asked where it is because I've wanted to read it since I found out there was one. She told me it should still be in the car unless Dad through it away. So of course he takes this turn to join the conversation, jokingly (thankfully). But he joked that he through it away b/c he didn't want to see the guys anymore. I go, "Dude, not fair. What if I want to look at the guys, huh?" That's where it went from joking to just mean.
Because then he starts in on how, it's okay because I don't even like guys. So looking at the hot guys on the show would have just been like looking at any guy, because "you wouldn't want to do anything with those guys, anyways, right?" I don't understand how we got back to this argument. I don't know how many times I have to tell him I'm not gay. *sigh* So he goes, and these were his exact words, mind you, "you just want Goofy from Supernatural. Since you can't have him, you wouldn't want anybody, right?" I'm all, "Goofy?... You mean Jared..?" He ignored me, saying how "it's okay, really. I know that you're going to be 80 and never have been with a guy. That's what you want, so it'll be okay since you're happy."
What the hell? My mom kept telling him to shut up the whole time he was talking. Told him how a guy with a self-esteem like his should realize that saying those kinds of things is hurtful. Especially since he knows my self-esteem is even worse than his. But really, I though parents weren't supposed to want their kids to go off and have random sex..? It seems like that's something I'd have to do to convince him. *sigh* I need some sort of male make-out buddy to get caught with. Maybe then my dad will stop thinking I'm a lesbian...
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I can not believe you father is giving you such a had time with this issue. If you say you like boys then he should accept that. Secondly if you like girls he should love you anyway. Third a person's sex life should not be living room conversation for the family. It is a private thing and I think your father is disrespecting you by doing this.
My children are both still virgins. I do not judge or push. If they save themselves for marriage Praise God. If not please use protection. If they are straight, gay, bi or try anything sexual I do not care. I love them, they are my children. And I do not want to discuss it unless they come to me with a question or advise. After the birds and the bees and masturbation talk at 12 I was finished.
When he does that to you start getting up and leaving the room. Something strikes me as SO wrong. I do not live with you so I do not know what is going on but there is something not right. Why will he not take you at your word? Why does it matter? Why does he feel the need to discuss it? Why is it his business? At your age this is not a topic a man should be discussing with his daughter.
As for what you are doing...I am sure it is NOT you it is HIM. Take a stand and when he starts absence yourself from the conversation. Then he can argue with your mother or himself about your sexuality that is non of his business.
I hope I was not too over the top on my opinion but this just really struck a cord in me as a parent. May God bless you and I pray that this situation will get better for you. Just be who you are and love yourself.
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You didn't go too over the top with your opinion, btw. I actually hadn't expected anyone to respond to this, but it's nice to hear from someone outside the situation to think it's as annoying as I do. I appreciate you taking the time to share your outlook with me. :D